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[這篇文章最後由mensch在 2005/07/30 11:02am 第 1 次編輯]+
quote:I have developed this pattern of waking exactly @ 2am & couldn't get back to sleep no matter how hard I try. This cycle just perpetuate everyday.r,4Q:
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you called that a pattern. since that pattern can be developed, that CAN DISAPPEAR also. i once have similar sleeping disorder like yours for a period, so you may have more confidence in my advice.RM
please note that i wrote "can disappear", so the pattern is the subject. all you have to "do" is to "relax". actually, you have to do NOTHING. just like insomnia, one can never get asleep , when one tries hard to fall asleep. the harder one tries, the more difficult to fall asleep.
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i have included many important points (i think) in the last post, such as "however, we are taught to work hard always...dt
to be responsible is enough"Db73
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though i said you should try new positive things, you should reduce the amount and pace of your activities. it's best to leave only those you really need only, like taking care of your body. otherwise, you feel even more depressed to realize, though having put so much effort, you still remain in more or less despair. "reducing" is also a way ready for meditation.70
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i understand the problem of sleeping disorder: the mind is occupied with negative thoughts and sadness, and the mind is so restless that doesn't allow your body to rest. so you have to cope with your mind, but actually you don't need to work to have a peaceful state of mind. otherwise, you would be employing another "mind staff" to monitor the old "mind staff" who's been torturing you, then the old one maltreats your body even more badly.
ukm
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so just let everything go and allow a peaceful state of mind to emerge.t
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besides, you should unlearn concepts about marriage, and rebuild your own values. divorce rate is so high nowadays. you are not the only one who suffer. there are happy and sad people among those married. for those who stay single, there are also happy and unhappy ones. so happiness is independent of marriage! one can enjoy that, when that's available. when there's not a (good) partner, there're many other things in life to enjoy still.X[hzs
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quote: My problem is something beyond my control now. I just have to accept the fact that my husband is no longer the same person that I married last year & love for the past 7 years.u>I'[r
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fine. not only your husband, everything keeps changing. he chooses to change to be worse, but you can choose to change better. you now haven't get used to lose the love from him, but you can always love yourself(and surely, there must other people who love you ;). don't say you can't, that would be the worst of all. many people think they are loving themselves, but actually they always wait passively for love from others. some even "hurt" themselves to get more sympathy, and they may keep on doing that (subconsciously) and never be aware of...`e=jX
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so lets things go , relax, care for your body, love yourself and allow a peaceful state of mind to come. remember you are what you eat and think.GX~>
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cheer up!n
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